At Intermitten 2018, when our President was in the kitchen with the team, making sure beverages were ready to hydrate the people, repeat Intermitten attendee Eva Neuhaus stepped in and said, “Can I talk to you?” Eva and Heidi had an impromptu conversation about the business Eva is growing in the tech community, called Breakthrough Coaching, and how she’s building bridges of success across multiple aspects of entrepreneurs’ lives. The energy, thoughtfulness, and authenticity that Eva brings to her work were palpable. It only made sense for Intermitten to put a spotlight on Eva and share her story. We asked her some questions to share with you here.
What does Breakthrough Coaching do?
I work with people in tech who want to translate the success they feel in their careers to dating and relationships.
When I moved to Ann Arbor, I started seeing tech people in my coaching practice who were super smart, creative, and successful but who just couldn’t find the kind of satisfying relationships they were looking for.
What I found was that even if people were doing the “right” things to put themselves out there, often they needed to make an internal shift to get the results they were looking for. Sometimes they felt like dating was a burdensome part-time job, and just looking at how they could enjoy the process more turned things around.
Many times, clients come to me because they haven’t gotten the relationship results they’ve wanted so they feel like something is inherently wrong with them. Navigating dating and relationships is a skill set, not a talent. I help them build those skills so they can find the loving relationships they’ve been seeking; the confidence they gain in the process inevitably spills over into the rest of their lives.
What advice do you have for folks in our community?
One of my favorite questions to ask is, “how would you spend your days if you had all the money, time, and resources in the world; you knew you couldn’t fail; and didn’t care what anyone thought?”
We often don’t allow ourselves to dream big. It’s vulnerable to name what we want since there’s a possibility we won’t get it. But if we don’t ask ourselves what we want, then we almost certainly won’t get it.
My advice is to use the question “what do I want?” in any situation where you’re dissatisfied. When you’re feeling awful, what do you want in that moment? Maybe you want to just feel the miserable feels. Maybe you’re craving a talk with a close friend or a long bike ride.
This question “what do I want?” is the key to having the life you desire from moment to moment. A lot of people have lives that look great from the outside but they’re miserable inside of them, because they don’t know what makes them happy. Asking yourself what you want allow you to see what you really want instead of what you think you should want — or what other people want for you. You get to know yourself better. You find agency in situations where you felt you had none, because asking what you want leads to the follow-up question of how you can get it — and that becomes a creative exploration in and of itself.
What inspired you to get involved in Intermitten?
I wanted to better understand the needs of my clients who work in tech and how I could be of service to the tech community. I find inspiration for my work in spaces of overlap with other disciplines, and I enjoy the creative, if-you-dream-it-you-can-make-it-happen outlook I’ve found in tech. I’ve had some amazing conversations at Intermitten and have left each time feeling energized, so I keep coming back for more!
Get a Breakthrough Coaching session with Eva
Eva is generously giving the Intermitten community a free relationship coaching session. You can sign up for a session with Eva here.